Oh noes! Where is the innocence?!
So have any of you heard of Duke student Karen Owen’s so-called “Fuck List”? Let me fill you in…
This student had (consensual) sex with a number of Duke University athletes. (Oh, Duke, you and your athletes’ sex scandals.) She created a PowerPoint presentation for her friends. Here’s the first slide.
For those of us who have done the college thing, who have heard your roommates doing the dirty through the wall, who have witnessed their share of walks of shame… this is basically Sunday morning brunch conversation. It’s 2010. Women have sex. Whoopee.
But the PowerPoint file left her little circle of friends and went viral.
Let’s talk about where I first heard about this story and (hilarious) PowerPoint presentation… it was on the TODAY show this morning. At first I was all, “Well, that’s interesting.” And Meredith Veira was all, “Oh noes!! How could something like this happen?!! Let’s interview an expert!” And I’m all, “Maybe you should interview a sexpert,” (then I look around to see if anyone was around to high-five me for being punny). And the expert was all, “There seems to be a lack of modesty or discretion even among our girls.” And then I was like, “OH HELL NO. SHE DID NOT JUST SLUT SHAME.”
That’s what this is. It’s a slut shaming witch hunt. So what that her “thesis” went viral? Let’s take it for what it is: a hilarious, well-written presentation about female sexuality. Okay, so her name is on it and now her parents know all about her sexcapades and okay, so her sexual partners’ names are on it and I recognize that that’s not exactly fair. But let’s remember, it’s OKAY for women to be sexual.
Karen’s argument is “Well, frat boys do it all the time and no one minds.” Exactly.
An article on Jezebel says about Karen’s writing, “Overall, very little regret and lots of good humor.” So, she’s not ashamed of the acts. Maybe she’s a little regretful that it got out of her circle of friends. But a girl needs to own her sexuality and the media needs to stop policing women’s bodies. For fuck’s sake, I’m sick of the slut shaming.
At least she might get something out of it. HarperCollins has approached her saying she’s the female version of Tucker Max. Nice.