What About Men? – Powerful Woman Monologue #11
About the Author: My name is Dee and I blog at New Adventures of a Redhead. I started my blog to stay connected with my family and friends when I took off for university in September 2009. I tend to blog about my interests, thoughts and current feelings. I am a third year student and although I do not study Political Science, Sociology, Women’s Studies or even English, I try to keep updated in current ongoings and events in the media. I just wanted to shine a different light on this topic and hope it is taken well.
It’s funny that I would stumble across this blog but also quite fitting since this topic seems to be circulating all over lately. I first watched the Miss Representation 7-9 minute preview in one of my classes last semester. And just a few weeks ago, my roommates and I sat down to watch the entire documentary.
After watching the entirety of the film I felt very differently than I thought I would. I was not empowered like my roommates did, I was actually feeling quite confused and upset. As I consider myself a female leader throughout my life whether that be in sports, academics, leadership, anything I found myself questioning my actions. Is it wrong that I wrote a post on my own blog telling girls how to love hockey? I felt so guilty. But I quickly realized that I’m not sure if I entirely agreed with the entire feminist mind set.
Let me clarify that for you. I am immensely grateful for the women’s movement and without it, many of our rights and freedoms would be absent from our lives or come at a much, much later date if at all. The problem I have with this movement is its unconditional focus on women and not men. How contradictory is it that some people want “equal rights” while largely ignoring men’s issues. Somehow we’ve developed a society where we need a focus on what is wrong in the women’s realm, but why not in the men’s?
Last night I watched a show entitle, Doc Zone, which focused on sexting and the sexualization of children in our society lately. It made very uncomfortable, I even had to cover my eyes with my blanket a few times. Miss Representation also touches on this subject. How women and now girls as young as 8! are told by the media to please men, whether that’s by wearing super sexualized clothing or performing sexual acts at a very early age. But now boys are being taught that this is okay. So many places in the media and porn industry people are being exposed to aggressive acts of violence that seen as “okay” or even “fun”. Boys look at naked women like it’s normal and expected.
It’s time we put a larger focus on the men’s issues and how to promote acceptable behaviour. How we can do that, I’m not exactly sure but if we really want an “equal” world it only seems fair.
A note from Renee: I strongly believe that the feminist movement is just as much about men as it is about women. I believe patriarchy is harmful to all genders and sexes. But Dee brings up some great points. How is the so-called women’s movement supposed to address men? What is equality? Let’s discuss these issues in the comments and I’ll find some time to craft a post on men’s involvement in the feminist movement later this week!
About the series: Powerful Woman Monologues are compiled in response to the media’s representation of women as inspired by the film Miss Representation. If you would like to participate, email me. Any kind of creative contribution is welcome from anyone.
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